The Pink Rabbit: Why You Are Lying to Yourself and How to Actually Win

January 2025 | DailyInspire.ch

As always – short and clear. Today we cut the fluff. Here is why believing in easy success is ruining your potential, and why the "Pink Rabbit" illusion is your biggest enemy.

1. The Trap of Easy Motivation

It wasn't your best day. Your boss once again made you feel worthless, and the moment you cross the threshold of your mortgaged four walls, your partner piles on things that, right now, you couldn't care less about. You hide in your room just to be alone for a moment. You feel uncomfortable because the life you are leading now has little to do with what you planned when you were younger. You have been deceived—by yourself. And that hurts the most because you no longer have anyone else to blame.

You turn on the internet. The page hasn't even loaded yet, and you are already attacked by flashy ads lying straight to your face: "I lost 10 kg in a week and I'm happy. It's simple!" Somewhere in the back of your mind, you know it's nonsense, but your brain takes the bait for a split second anyway. You want to feed your mind with something more ambitious. You read an interview with someone famous, "from zero to hero." Once again, you realize that "everything is within reach" and "where there's a will, there's a way." It sounds good, it sounds motivating, it sounds… like another product to be sold.

For a moment, you calm down. The candy-coated vision of success created for marketing purposes has brainwashed you once again because you naively believed that tomorrow you will change your job, lose weight, and fix your relationships. That a new "starting Monday" is enough. That is exactly what the Pink Rabbit is. Inconspicuous. Soft to the touch. Sweet. Nice. Easy to cuddle. You fell for the trick that your path to the top would look like this—pastel, comfortable, without sweat, without teeth clenched in pain. Ha, ha, ha. Good joke.

If you believe that everything will go easily, lightly, and pleasantly, you are behaving like a child who still believes in the fairy tale of quick success. Yes, it would be nice to live like that. But if you continue to buy this narrative in the version of "3 steps to success," "7 tricks that changed my life," and "10 kg in a week," you are simply naive. And this naivety comes at a price: years wasted on illusions.

I wasn't going to write more about success and motivation, but I want to leave something here at the end. A cold shower to wake you from your lethargy. This text is not here to make you feel better. It is here so that you finally stop lying to yourself.

2. The Truth: Sweat vs. Dreams

Here is the moment of truth. Not everyone will achieve success. Most of you will land in a job you don't like and be forced to work just to pay the bills. Most will never go beyond the status of "living for the weekend." Does what you are reading irritate you? Good. Today I want to provoke you. Because as long as you are only "motivated," nothing changes. Only when you get absolutely furious with yourself—then there is a chance.

I have conducted dozens of trainings, lectures, and workshops. I can count on the fingers of one hand the people who actually changed something in their lives after my talks. Yes, maybe my statistics are so low because I am a lousy trainer—that is also an option. Unfortunately, comparing my experiences with other trainers, it all adds up to one sensible, honest whole titled: "Most of you will never change." Not because of "fate," the "country," or the "system." But simply because it is more comfortable to dream than to work your ass off.

The Pink Rabbit is a deceptive bastard who will tell you that every success in life is easy to achieve. That you don't have to put much work into it, that just wanting it and the "law of attraction" is enough. Every time you believe that—you lose. Not because the "law of attraction doesn't work," but because it relieves you of the responsibility for the work that needs to be done here and now. Do you still believe it? If everyone told you the truth, you would fall off your chair. The process of achieving success is often a nightmare. It is an ugly, non-Instagrammable picture: sweat, frustration, a sense of meaninglessness, doubt. I don't want to scare you. I just want to make you aware so you know what you are signing up for. So you aren't surprised that it hurts—but accept it as part of the package.

Here is what you need to understand to break the cycle:

• The Action Gap: Some of you are lazy. Some don't know what they really want. Still others will deceive themselves for another few years that they are developing, when, apart from reading books and taking more notes, they are doing nothing else. Personal development books, trainings, podcasts—they are not bad in themselves. The problem begins where action ends. Where everything stays in your head and in your notebook.
• The Graveyard of Dreams: The whole adventure with achieving success ends after filling a whole notebook with goals, ideas, and concepts that will never see the light of day. Every line is a "someday" that never comes. After every development training, you believe you can do something. A week after the training, you return to your old lifestyle and are unhappy again.
• The Real Cost: Is losing weight simple? It might be simple to eat chocolate, not to do a workout during which you almost vomit. It is simple to turn on Netflix, not to go out into the cold to run. Except that eating chocolate won't sculpt your abs or your glutes. This is beautiful and brutal in life at the same time. Everyone would like to, but not everyone will have what they dream of because the price to pay for success is steep.

One group will continue to tell friends what they are "planning." The second will simply do it and show results without fanfare. Sweat buckets, feel your heart rise to your throat, throw yourself into deep water where you won't be sure until the end if you'll survive. Forget the Pink Rabbit, get to work, damn it. Without fanfare, without witnesses on Instagram, without expecting applause. Quietly, day by day.

Count on it being hard. The calculation is simple. If it's easy—you'll be pleasantly surprised. If it's hard—you'll be aware of what you signed up for. Be an adult. Have humility. Realize that nothing valuable is given with a snap of your fingers. That sometimes you have to go through your own hell to arrange at least a piece of your life your way.

The beginnings will be the worst. You will feel that you can't make it, you will feel close to quitting, bitter tears of suffering will clip your wings, you will be convinced that you won't succeed, sweat will pour down your forehead, and you will bang your fist against the wall and scream: "Why does nothing in my life work out?!". This won't be a pretty scene for a social media story. This will be the moment of truth. Either you break then, or you finally stop bullshitting yourself.

Finally, however, you will make it and be proud of yourself. Not because the Pink Rabbit carried you there, but because you got there yourself. That is what I wish for you. And if this text pissed you off instead of just "motivating" you—it means that DailyInspire is working exactly as it should. Now it's your turn.

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